Goodbye to a mentor and friend

I've had to say another goodbye this week.

A colleague, who has become a dear friend and mentor to me after almost 10 years, is leaving to heed a personal calling.

I took her for a simple farewell lunch and over our chosen noodles and a shared plate of fried chicken winglets, we had a heart-to-heart conversation. It was one conversation that resulted in a whole bag of mixed emotions for me. For one, I knew that we might never meet to talk like this again. I am genuinely happy for her, but know that I will acutely feel the loss of a wise and kind mentor and friend - someone who has helped me navigate rough waters and been a constant encourager and guide. I have learnt so much from her, not just work-wise, but also how she lives as a Godly woman, a wife and a mother.

Even at this 'last lunch', she shared her astute insights on the directions for the team, and gave me confidence by illuminating in me how my natural strengths would bode well with what is to come.

I finally opened up and shared just how much she meant to me, and thanked her with all my heart as I wished her well. Tears were shed, both happy and sad.
Before we left the restaurant, she handed me a gift - this book by Gary Thomas, one of her favourite authors. In it, she wrote a short but touching message, which reveals how precious a friend she is to me. I know that I will be in her prayers and she in mine. I am also made so aware that she has positively touched my life irrevocably. My parenting of Bubbles will always be coloured by her example and wisdom.
Today, I helped her move her stuff to her car, and then stood to wave as she drove off for the last time. In this goodbye, I also carry in my heart a song of thanksgiving for this special friendship.

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Mum in the Making said...

Thank God for good friends that spur us on!

imp said...

I'm glad you have such a mentor. It's friendship, and your paths will cross again one day. :)

Miss Leney said...

I know how it feels as I had a friend/ mentor/ ex-colleague who I looked up to and whom inspire the hell out of me and having to relocate to another city was a tough one because I know she's not going to be there no more. But you know, there's always technology and even though you wont be able to meet up for lucnhes like this, take heart in knowing that you still have other ways to keep in touch so not all is loss. Friendships like these are a treasure. :)

mc said...

a good friendship is life long, i'm sure you will keep in touch even if you don't see each other every day anymore.

Corsage@A Dollop Of Me said...

Indeed! They are blessings :)

I sure hope so! But even if our paths don't ever cross again, I can be thankful that it did!

You would understand! We will not be able to keep in touch the same way but yes, it is a friendship that will always be treasured!

I think we'll both do our best, but realistically know that the best of times is a phase that has passed us by!

mummybean said...

it's so wonderful to have a relationship like that at work!

Corsage@A Dollop Of Me said...

Indeed! Although I no longer have someone to fill that role, I'm thankful for that blessing and experience!

Pris said...

Oh wow. What a touching post! I wish your friend well. Had 2 mentors before too and know what its like to "lose" a mentor when one moves away. But we still keep in touch.

One qn. How's the book on "sacred parenting"?

Corsage@A Dollop Of Me said...

Lovely that you still keep in touch with them! I've just started on the book. This one is actually one of weekly devotions. I really like that it is very simple but gives me practical things to do and think about as I go about my life as a parent. It is not about parenting but how I live as a parent! Now I want to go buy the book of the same name!

Pris said...

Corsage: Thanks a lot for your reply. Yeah I keep in touch via blog (one of my mentors has a blog) and facebook of course.

Oh you mean there's a book and a devotional with the same name? Wow, feel tempted to buy it! BUT I got to finish the books that I have started first!