I made my baby sad

I really like how she looks with her hair tied up. Her chubby cheeks get nicely displayed and she looks neat with a hint of spunk.

I don't understand why she doesn't like her hair up but as of now, I am totally going to let.her.be.

A few days ago, the weather was hot, and I was persuading her to let me tie up her hair. The heat was already making the both of us a little fussed. As I was bunching up her soft waves, she repeatedly threw her collection of hair-clips and ties all over the place. It happened once, then again, and when she did it the third time, I snapped.

If you don't want your hair ties, Mummy is going to give them to another little girl! I said in a loud tone as I picked up the pieces in a huff.

She stopped what she was doing and looked at me. What she said next really stunned me:

Bubbles sad. she said mournfully.

What did you say?! I couldn't believe what I heard.

Bubbles sad. She repeated, before burying her little face in her hands and leaning her forehead onto the mattress.

I immediately felt pricks in my chest and alarm bells went off in my head. I reached out to hold her close to me and asked Why is Bubbles sad?

Another girl. She said, looking pitifully at me.

What?! My mind was buzzing.
Did I just hurt my baby with what I said? What have I done?

I reached out to hold her. In a gentle voice, I apologised for hurting her, and explained that I was upset with the way she treated her things.

Thankfully, she bounced back fairly quickly and told me firmly that she did not want her hair ties. When asked what I should do with them then, she merrily said Give another girl, before scooting off to play with something else.

My baby. She is not even Two! I really do have a sensitive soul in my hands. May God grant me wisdom to handle my little one with tender loving care. So much learning I have yet to do!


Anya & Arielle's mom said...

Oh mine! Reading this post brought a tear to my eyes. Indeed, Bubbles has a sensitive soul. Thankfully, she knows to externalize her feelings instead of bottling up.

I also pray that there will be no guilt lurking after this little episode. Instead, give thanks that you gotten to know your baby even more.

Merryn said...

awww... Bubble is sad but Bubble is certainly a wise and smart kid for her age! Hugs Bubbles and Mommy too :D

lovexiaolongbao said...

She's so expressive i am so envious. It's good cos she can tell u when she is unhappy. I feel that the Terrible Twos are approaching for Dylan cos he is starting to have his own agenda but he can't describe so he gets very angsty and fussy a lot.

Corsage@A Dollop Of Me said...

Anya's mom:
Yes I am so thankful actually to have a child that is communicative. It makes things easier for us and she takes very well to verbal explanations. Soon, I'll have to teach her too, how to deal with this world of ours that may not be so kind to sensitive souls...

Thanks dear. Yes, we've been told she's emotionally mature for her age. I'll have to learn how to provide guidance to this side of her!

I guess she is very 'girl' in this aspect, just like Dylan is very 'boy'. Those drawings he did are impressive - the control he has over the pen! Bubbles can't do that right now. Hopefully you'll be able to help him find ways to express himself so the TT will not be too challenging!

Mum in the Making said...

Its quite amazing that she able to describe her feelings at that young age... very good in expressing herself, your little Bubbles! Hugs... you hang in there, I guess each day is a lesson for us in handling those little hearts a lil better!

Corsage@A Dollop Of Me said...

She has been surprising us a lot with her expressions as well. Just yesterday she told me I 'better change clothes' when she spotted some of her puke on my pair of shorts. And when I said Ok, she added: Quick quick!
Very amusing!
I guess that's where her development is focused on now.
Thanks for the hugs. We do have so many lessons yet to learn!

Jess said...

Aww! What an absolute sweetie she is! And so cute with that hair up :)

Jolene said...

Aaaww.... bubbles is so adorable.. Can't believe she's already expressing her sensitivity side of her at such a young age! Hugs and cuddles to her :)

Corsage@A Dollop Of Me said...

Thank you :) I love her look with her hair up as well. Alas, she has her own ideas!

Aww thanks for the cuddles! It really surprised me as well. Maybe it is more of a girl thing :)

M said...

She's really amazing and advance :)
P.S - Ry hates anything and everything on her head as well :(

Corsage@A Dollop Of Me said...

The linguistic and emotional sides of her are developing first before other aspects I think!

What's with these girls and hair accessories! I have many pretty ones too =P Hopefully J will take to them :)

Kelly said...

I love how she's so verbally expressive! Mine just shows us his displeasure or pleasure by throwing things around (terrible 2s come early I am sure) or dancing around.

bookjunkie said...

I really loved the raw honesty of this post. I even felt like tearing for both Bubbles and you in that moment that you described. What a sensitive beautiful soul your lil girl is.