A Great Attitude

Although J has made a couple of mistakes despite clear instructions and demonstrations, I have been heartened by her sheer determination and enthusiasm.

A few amusing and slightly alarming experiences occured though, in this very short span of time:

Being eager to please and perhaps too enthusiastic at times resulted in her plunging herself into doing things that are not necessary. After learning to use the washing machine for example, she washed WAY TOO MANY clothes that we ended up with not enough space to hang them (we don't have a dryer). And on top of that, I found a bunch of squeezed damp clothes in our wash toilet, stuffed into our mop pail! She explained it was her own clothes, and I realised that because she already hung up so much laundry, there was no space for her clothes =P So I took out another spare clothes hanger I had in our store, and asked her to hang up her clothes - otherwise they would stink!

We also found her attempting to cook rice on the stove-top, using the rice container from our rice cooker! She got kancheong and wanted to have the rice ready (despite me already telling her that I would be back to cook with her). She explained that she did so because she forgot how to use the rice cooker =P I assured her it was alright, because I knew that was how she cooked rice in the Philippines, but explained that if she didn't know how to use something, it was ok to wait for us to be back to ask - otherwise she might end up spoiling some equipment without realising it!

What was heartening was that in that same morning, she also packed and cleaned my entire storeroom without me asking, and had our bedroom tidied without me teaching her how to (she observed the part-time cleaners and made our bed exactly like they did!).

Anyway, I have since found her holed up in her room during rest times furiously writing things in her notebook, reading through the 8-pages, and later referring to either one throughout the day. She has also taken the initiative to ask more questions to clarify what she could not remember, and even asks after the job is done if it was done correctly.

Don't get me wrong though - it is still very tiring to constantly coach someone. I have to very precise, I need to repeat myself, I need to observe and I need to check. And I am not even good at household chores myself. I need to think through what to teach first so that the learning curve is not so steep.

I also definitely miss our privacy :( Which was the main reason why I didn't want live-in help in the first place.

But I'm thankful that at the very least I think we do have a helper who has displayed a great attitude so far.

10 comments:

Little Miss Snooze said...

Indeed, a good attitude!

celcilia_tjioe said...

U have succeed in the first grade. ^v^

~tif;fany* said...

sounds like youve got a good girl!!

lovexiaolongbao said...

she's super ON. this kind is good.

imp said...

OOH! Very positive!!! We've had some who killed all plants and stained the walls. :(

good. but still, DON'T BE TOO FRIENDLY AH!

corsage said...

lms, celcilia, tiffany:
Am thankful!

lxlb:
I guess better 'on' then not! Just need to watch her more closely now. Today I just found her using a cloth meant for cleaning table-tops to clean the bathroom floor! I told her she should not use that for floors - she said ok, and continued cleaning the floor with it! Then I repeated again slowly..before she realised what I meant.

imp:
I killed my own plants! hahahaha. She doesn't quite understand certain things about hygiene. (See my reply to lxlb above). But I guess that can't be helped. I just have to remind her. I don't know what is being too friendly! She's rather smiley though :)

imp said...

hmmm. in my books, that means beyond knowing whether she's married, with or without children, i don't need to sit down with her to chat over tea or anything and know how many brothers/sisters she has, where they're working, how much they're earning, what sickness they have, what they talk about at home. basically information that one learns about new friends....

but i'm colder that way. :D

BeanBean said...

glad to know your new helper is starting out well. sorry i never got round to senidng you my chores list :( i've been a bit swamped under recently and nver got round to updating it. i think i'll need to ask you for help in future! you sound like you're doing well. totally know what you mean about having to train while not being very good at chores myself!

Poiema said...

Truly an eager beaver! It's ironic but sometimes we just can't afford the luxury of not having a helper. :)

corsage said...

imp:
Oh I see - right now there's some language barrier, so it is difficult to talk in detail about these things too. But when I am able to trust her more, I might! heh

beanbean:
hey no worries about it - perhaps I can mail you my 8 pages! Yes, not being good at chores means I am doing just-in-time learning in order to teach her! =P

poiema:
Yes she is. I have run out of things for her to do - except for re-organising my wardrobe - which I am delaying because I have no idea yet how I want it done! She completes her chores so efficiently now. Think my apartment is not big enough. hehe. But I did tell her that things will change when baby comes! Yep the irony =P